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Here’s the bottom line: Lax gun laws put single women at risk. But, together, we can shut down the gunsplainers and take action to keep young women safe. Spread the word by sharing this site with your friends and family.

What's the Problem?

The Boyfriend Loophole

You may already know our gun laws have a few problems. But you’d imagine that, at the very least, there’s no legal way for an abusive boyfriend to buy a gun, right? Wrong.

Domestic abusers are supposed to be prohibited from buying guns, and they can’t pass a federal background check when they buy a gun from a licensed dealer. But there’s a big catch: An abuser is only prohibited from buying a gun if he’s currently married to, formerly married to, has a child with, or lives with the victim.

That leaves a gaping loophole for dangerous abusive boyfriends and stalkers to walk right through. Simply because they haven’t been married to or lived with the victim, they can pass a background check and buy a gun.

Are you serious?

Yeah, it’s not pretty. Outdated language in the current law overlooks this huge category of domestic abusers—even though more women are killed each year by dating partners than by spouses.

And to make matters worse, the law also fails to protect women from dangerous stalkers, despite the fact that nearly 9 of 10 victims of attempted murder by an intimate partner were stalked by their attacker in the prior year.[1]

None of this is okay.

What it Means for Women

We all know an abuser is an abuser, married or not—and this loophole leaves single women dangerously exposed in their relationships.

Lives are on the line. When abusers get their hands on guns, the consequences are deadly. If a gun is present during a domestic violence situation, it’s five times more likely that the woman will end up dead.

What You Can Do About It

First, if you—or a friend, your sister, a roommate, or anyone you know—is dealing with an abuser, make sure to get help ASAP:

  • National Domestic Violence Hotline
    Trained advocates are available to take your calls through their toll free, 24/7 hotline at 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).
    Live chat is another option for getting real-time, one-on-one support. Available every day from 7 AM – 2 AM CST.
  • Stalking Resource Center
    Call 855-4-VICTIM (855-484-2846). Phone lines are open from 9 AM to 6 PM EST, Monday through Friday, and chat is available from 10 AM to 6 PM EST.

Then, demand that Congress drag our gun laws into the 21st century, and pass legislation to keep guns out of the hands of all domestic violence abusers.

The private sale loophole allows these jerks to simply go to a gun show or online to side-step a background check. WTF?

Finally, make sure you’re registered to vote for this November. Your voice matters.

The Online Loophole

If you’ve spent even a nanosecond on Twitter or Tinder, you know that the internet is full of weird randos. Online dating requires a meticulous safety protocol: meet in a public place, tell your friends where you’ll be, proceed with caution.

Meeting a cool person online is HARD. But buying a gun online? Not so hard.

Every day, people connect online to trade or sell guns­­ with no background check required. It’s as easy as going on one of many “Craiglist for guns”-style sites and arranging to meet up and buy or sell a gun. In most of the country, it’s legal to meet a perfect stranger in a parking lot and sell him your gun — no questions asked, no background check.

The size of this virtual gun show is huge and growing. Every year, an estimated 25,000 guns are sold to criminals on a site called Armslist, with far less effort than you put into drafting your OKCupid profile.

Wait, WHAT?

Yep, loopholes in federal law make it SO EASY to buy a gun without a background check. Sure, if someone walks into a licensed gun dealer and tries to purchase a firearm, that dealer is going to run a background check to make sure the customer isn’t, say, a convicted murderer. (As well he should.) But in most states, if that same guy buys a gun from a some dude he meets at a gun show or in the dark corners of the internet, he won’t have to undergo any background check at all. And we think that’s insane.

What it Means for Women

The online loophole is bad news for women. American women are 11 times more likely to die from gun violence than women in comparable countries. The statistics are scary — and unacceptable.

Background checks are the single most effective way to keep guns out of the hands of dangerous people, including convicted felons, domestic abusers, and people with dangerous mental illness.

Need proof? In the 18 states that require background checks for all handgun sales, 46% fewer women are shot and killed by intimate partners than the states that do not. Now that’s a statistic we can get behind.

What You Can Do About It

Hold elected officials accountable for closing this loophole. They have the power to change these laws. Make sure they know that you expect them to take action to keep women safer.

Last but not least, educate your friends and family about this dangerous loophole. Most people think these laws already exist (because, shocker, they’re common sense!) but they don’t.

Guns on Campus

College is intense. While you’re busy studying, working, dating, or nursing that beer pong hangover, the last thing you want to worry about is whether the assclown in your Chem Lab has a gun in his backpack. Add alcohol to the mix (because #college) and the idea of guns on campus gets even scarier.

Yet across the country, the gun lobby is pushing laws that would force colleges and universities to allow students, faculty, employees — anyone — to carry guns on their campuses.

Um, have these people ever been to college?

Anyone who’s been to Greek Week parties should know that drunken students don’t always make the best decisions—adding firearms to that mix can only make things more dangerous and volatile. That’s why people with a real stake in student safety—like campus police chiefs, college presidents, faculty, and students themselves—are overwhelmingly opposed to guns on campus.

In response, gun extremists like to pretend they’re just focused on protecting women from assault and abuse. Yep, those are the same people who are opposed to laws that would keep guns out of the hands of abusers in the first place. Remember them?

What it Means for Women

Campuses can already be dangerous places for all students, especially women. Binge drinking, substance abuse and depression are already big enough problems for students, and it doesn’t take a Ph.D. to understand why introducing guns into that environment is a bad idea.

And then there’s sexual assault. As Marjorie Sanfilippo, a professor from Florida’s Eckert College, told the Florida Senate Criminal Justice Committee: “Proponents will tell you that allowing concealed carry [of guns on campus] will protect female students from sexual assault. I will point out the obvious; you’ll be arming the assailants, too.”

What You Can Do About It

If you’re enrolled or applying to school, find out whether guns are allowed on campus. Not happy with the answer? Make sure the administration and your elected officials know it.

Myths vs Facts

  1. Myth

    HE SAYS: “Why bother strengthening our gun laws, criminals will find ways to get guns anyway!”


    YOU CAN SAY: “That’s like saying why outlaw bank robbery? Bank robbers are always going to steal.”

    In the 18 states that require background checks for all handguns, there are 46% fewer women shot to death by intimate partners than states that don’t. Closing the loophole in the rest of the country will help save women’s lives.

  2. Myth

    HE SAYS: “A good guy with a gun is the only thing that stops a bad guy with a gun.”


    YOU CAN SAY: “I’m a high-school teacher, not an action hero.”

    Do good guys with guns exist? Yes. Can they stop all shootings? NO. For example, the mass shootings in Tucson and Roseburg, Oregon were carried out in places armed civilians were present. The “good guy with a gun” is more of a Wild West fantasy than an actual solution. And gunsplainers tend to have an exaggerated sense of their own heroic potential.

  3. Myth

    HE SAYS: “If a woman is being abused, she should just go out and get a gun.”


    YOU CAN SAY: “So her abuser can shoot her with her own gun?”

    If a gun is present in a domestic violence situation, a woman is 5 times more likely to be killed. The real issue isn’t whether law-abiding women can buy guns–it’s why the law makes it so easy for dangerous domestic abusers to illegally get their hands on guns.

  4. Myth

    HE SAYS: “Hey, more people are killed every year by hammers than by rifles.”


    YOU CAN SAY: “I think it’s time for a math lesson.”

    About 12,000 Americans are murdered with firearms — including handguns, rifles, and shotguns — every year. Approximately another 21,000 die by suicide with a gun. About 900 or so die from being struck by blunt force objects, like hammers and fists.

  5. Myth

    HE SAYS: “Background checks are just the first step in creating a national registry. Then they’re going to come take all our guns.”


    YOU CAN SAY: Paranoid, much?

    Nobody’s talking about taking away guns from responsible gun owners. It’s a fantasy that the gun lobby uses to incite fear in the minds of gunsplainers everywhere. In fact, under federal law, creation of a national registry is explicitly illegal.

Real Life Gunsplainers

If you’re the victim of a violent crime . . . the burden of stopping that assault is not going to be on the person committing that assault, not at that moment in time. The burden of stopping that assault is on the victim, it is on the victim.

Cam Edwards, NRA Radio Host (Source)

The HK MR556 is that gun, like that girl who’s unbelievably attractive, she has this presence about her that seems untouchable and she’s not apologetic about her beauty.

Colion Noir, NRA commentator (Source)

Anybody that doesn’t think it is better to blow someone’s brains out than to be raped, deserves to be raped.

Ted Nugent, NRA Board Member (Source)


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